Should Christians Wear Bikinis
I recall hearing a story about the grade school daughter of some church leaders who attended a slumber party at a friend’s house. “Bring your swimsuit,” her [...]
Sex & Religion
Can Christians Skinny Dip
In a previous post, I mentioned I saw no need for a universal injunction on Christians in bikinis. My wife and I can use discretion in the when and where, but in the right [...]
Home Grown – The Christian Couple’s Sex Tape
Is it wrong for Christians to make a homemade sex tape? The short answer is no, but the long answer requires some vital considerations. First, why do you want to make it? And [...]
Is Cross-Dressing Sinful?
I was nervous. It was a first of many things. My first major project of my senior English class, my first time trying to teach anything on literature, my first serious tease [...]
Fake Rape – Rape Roleplay
A Quiet Evening You’re lounging on the couch, sipping on some merlot as you enjoy a quiet moment with a good book. The house is clean, dinner was excellent, and there [...]
1 Corinthians 6:9 – Homosexuals (arsenokoitēs)
We’ve covered pornos (fornicators), eidōlolatrēs (idolaters), moichos (adulterers), and the precise but hard-to-express malakos (effeminate). Paul’s [...]
Biblical Modesty and Vain Modesty
As a culture influenced by a narrow (and frankly misogynist) interpretation of Scripture’s mandates for modesty, we have really lost sight of what biblical modesty means. [...]
Erotic Wisdom in Proverbs 5
Bendita seas mi fuente. In high school, I never paid much attention in Spanish class, but I got a curiosity as an adult and put in some time trying to learn. It didn’t [...]
Is it a Sin to Be Naked?
It always stuck with me how Adam and Eve strolled through the Garden of Eden stark naked in the presence of God. They had no shame and therefore nothing to be ashamed of. If [...]
To Know and to Be Known
Green light seeped through his cracked eyelids and he immediately began rubbing his eyes. He could tell he’d been out for a bit, sleeping deeper than ever in his life. [...]
1 Corinthians 6:9 – Adulterers (moichos)
We shouldn’t practice fornication or idolatry according to the first two items on Paul’s list (pornos and eidōlolatrēs respectively) in 1 Corinthians 6:9, and [...]
The Undefiled Marriage Bed
I believe it no exaggeration to claim Hebrews 13:4 as the single most pivotal verse in God's Word on sexuality in marriage. It offers specific instruction amid a context of instruction; this isn't wisdom literature or storytelling. The author plainly states, "Do this." [...]
Adult Novelties – Sex Toys in a Christian Marriage
So you’ve come across this website that claims to be Christian in its message, yet we talk openly about sex toys and even have reviews of some of them. What’s up [...]
5 Mandates for Marital Masturbation
While the Bible doesn’t seem to address the topic of masturbation clearly, the very nature of masturbation makes it dangerous territory for a married Christian. [...]
Is Porn Sinful?
As I’ve indicated on many subjects, I’m fairly liberal in my stance on sex in marriage. There are some immovable lines that cannot be crossed such as adultery, [...]
“Drink Your Fill.” – Christian Sex Shouldn’t Be Boring
Sex is fun. Good sex is really fun. I don’t think these truths would come as a surprise to people with healthy sex lives. Between hormonal chemistry and nervous [...]
Perverse Submission
Some Christians have hangups about role play, bondage, and other arrangements wherein the man is in a submissive, weak, or helpless posture before the woman. This, they [...]
An Evolution of Consent – Rape Victim and Predator
Consent is part of public discourse now. I have known what it is to be a victim. Recently, though, I've realized that I have also been a sexual predator. [...]
Scripture on Masturbation
The dreaded “m” word. There are so many colloquial labels for the act. My personal favorite is used at my church’s men’s groups: “Taking matters [...]