Hormones on Ice
My wife has quirks as much as I do, but sometimes you must dig a little deeper for hers. And hers are often far more interesting and unanticipated. Which means sometimes you [...]
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Perverse Submission
Some Christians have hangups about role play, bondage, and other arrangements wherein the man is in a submissive, weak, or helpless posture before the woman. This, they [...]
1 Corinthians 6:9 – Summary
In Paul’s first letter to the church in Corinth, he offers a lot of tough but encouraging words of instruction regarding how to live life. Within these few chapters, he [...]
Scripture on Masturbation
The dreaded “m” word. There are so many colloquial labels for the act. My personal favorite is used at my church’s men’s groups: “Taking matters [...]
The Husband Experience
The Pack Mule is the man a wife takes shopping with him to carry bags and nothing more. She might permit him to voice an opinion on an outfit or two, bit it's for his benefit, not hers. She's picked one specific outfit to let him see to confirm an already-made decision. His opinion doesn't really matter. [...]
No More Headaches
I was reading in an old magazine and stumbled across an interesting tidbit. A survey and found something that gives me some hope. A majority of migraine sufferers reported [...]
My Joseph Journey – The Jobs and the Hustles
In prison, everyone has a job. But it's your hustle on the side that is where the "real money" gets made by the aspiring entrepreneur. [...]
The Bible on Swearing
I thought the idea strange —one series of sounds from someone's mouth forms an unacceptable word while another series of sounds makes an acceptable word. Sounds are sounds, right? But like a "good" Christian noob, I obeyed first and asked questions later. [...]
A Fog Sex Fantasy
There's one aspect of this time of year that I fully appreciate: fog. In particular, I want to enjoy my wife while I enjoy the fog. [...]
Facing Hard Questions – Making Sure I Truly Believe What I Believe
In my youth, I took the teachings of church culture as gospel, even if they didn't sit right. Now, I openly face the hard questions that challenge my faith. [...]
Multiplicity – Orgasms and Double Standards
As a guy, my orgasms are cheap. A dime a dozen. Two for the price of one. Try a free sample. We’ll even pay shipping and handling. In the grand scheme of things, [...]
My Joseph Journey – The Prison Staff
I use the term prison staff to keep the label deliberately ambiguous. Most outsiders would simply call them “guards” collectively. Most insiders call them [...]
Exposed Repose – Can Parents Sleep Naked?
The tangle of limbs, the heat of skin on skin, it's great. And so it remained until my wife peed on a stick one day. Now, my most comfortable state was in question. I knew what newlyweds did. We were good at that. But I didn't know what parents did. So, I dug deeper. [...]
How to Tie a Slip Knot
In the bedroom (and in the rest of the world), one of the most useful knots to know is the slip knot. It's extremely easy to do — in fact, it's so simple it's the only one I remember from my scouting days — and is highly versatile. Some of our other How-To posts call for slip knots, so it might be helpful to know. [...]
Recognizing vs. Consuming Beauty
Sean and Drew have been coming to this gym for years, but the brothers have only recently started working out together. This new arrangement is great, though, if for no other [...]
Christianity and Anti-semitism
In recent years, I've come to see anti-semitism as what it is: a malignant undercurrent that occasionally manifests in horrible ways but never really goes away. [...]
Lovesick – Song of Songs 5:8
Song of Songs 5:8 KJV: I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem; / If ye find my beloved, that ye tell him, / That I am sick of love. NIV: Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you [...]
The Wisdom of Boundaries
"I just don't even understand how a man could do that," I said, adding a mental, Grow a pair, man! I was the king of cliché Christian judgmentalism. And he was the scum of the earth. So profound was my disgust that I still remember the exact intersection I was driving up to when we had this conversation. [...]
Smudges on the Glass
There’s something about a pane of glass. Growing up, my mom was one of millions of irritated parents that had perpetually dirty prints all over windows and glass doors [...]