The Pack Mule is the man a wife takes shopping with him to carry bags and nothing more. She might permit him to voice an opinion on an outfit or two, bit it's for his benefit, not hers. She's picked one specific outfit to let him see to confirm an already-made decision. His opinion doesn't really matter. [...]
Most readers knew of PDAs before coming to this site, but what's this PDS thing? PDS is Publically Discreet Sexuality, a label I've given sexual acts that take place in public settings but are not necessarily under the public's scrutiny. [...]
Unfortunately, glass has a two-way quality. With two-story houses that can see over our privacy fence behind us, this poses a quandary. You see, generally, we're pretty "clothing optional" about things [...]
The default pattern of shopping, for some reason, involves the man assuming the mantle of Pack Mule while the wife does her business. If you're not going to go that route, you've got to deliberately choose to do otherwise. The Husband experience has to be a mutual decision. That means: talking about it. [...]
As you grow to consider your natural tendency to speak and understand one language over another, you can start to expand on the basic premise of language and begin to dissect dialects. Sure, she needs me to spend time with her, but what increases the quality? [...]
"I just don't even understand how a man could do that," I said, adding a mental, Grow a pair, man! I was the king of cliché Christian judgmentalism. And he was the scum of the earth. So profound was my disgust that I still remember the exact intersection I was driving up to when we had this conversation. [...]
A man who despises shopping with his wife is a Pack Mule whereas a man who desires shopping with his wife is a Husband. And believe it or not, he doesn't get to pick his role; it is placed on him by his wife.
This won't come as any surprise to those who've read Gary Chapman's now-classic bestseller The Five Love Languages, but each of us communicates love in a distinct way; it's our "love language". It's how we naturally express our love, but more than that, it's how we best interpret love expressed to us. [...]